Chapter 2 Major Themes in the Relationship: What Brought You Together HIS NAME's Moon Conjunct HER NAME's Mercury: You enjoy long, intimate conversations, confiding in each other, sharing your inner feelings and thoughts. You enjoy "psychoanalyzing" each other and others as well. At worst, this can degrade into gossip and at best it can provide a depth of mutual understanding and self-discovery that is enlightening, nourishing, and refreshing. HIS NAME's Moon Opposition HER NAME's Saturn: Although you both strive to be responsible, respectful, and dedicated to each other, there is a strong tendency for this relationship to focus TOO MUCH on responsibilities and commitments. HIS NAME is likely to feel unjustly criticized, frustrated by HER NAME's moral and ethical attitudes, and eventually resent the limitations and responsibilities imposed by this relationship. Emotional distance, coolness, indifference to feelings, and a sense of loneliness or oppression can develop between you. To make this relationship work, you both must avoid the tendency to let your sense of responsibility and concern for the other person cause you to try to control your partner's life. HER NAME's Mercury Opposition HIS NAME's Saturn: The flow of communication between you is often restricted, and very frustrating, especially for HER NAME. Criticism and nit-picking can be a real problem for you. HIS NAME wants HER NAME to be very clear, very precise, and will constantly interrupt HER NAME if there are inconsistencies in what HER NAME is saying. Often you simply do not share the same interests or are just not on the same wavelength. Communication of practical, serious affairs is usually good, but any topic involving intuition or speculation is not likely to get very far. Because you communicate well only about certain topics, you both need other friends with whom you can share your other interests. Saturn Mutually Aspects Uranus: The balance between security and experimentation, commitment and freedom, caution and spontaneity, or practicality and innovation is a major issue and often a source of friction in your relationship. There is always some degree of tension between the two of you on these issues but whether this is creative and growth-producing or merely dissonant is very much up to you. HIS NAME's Saturn Square HER NAME's Uranus, HER NAME's Saturn Square HIS NAME's Uranus: HIS NAME's caution, needs for security, stability, and commitment holds HER NAME's needs for freedom, excitement, and novelty in check, and this is a source of friction between the two of you, which may become an intense conflict. HER NAME tends to rebel against HIS NAME's demands or restrictions and is inconstant or unreliable with HIS NAME, who may never feel quite safe with HER NAME. HER NAME's influence on HIS NAME is unsettling or disruptive, but this may have a positive, liberating effect if HIS NAME is stuck in an unsatisfying and outmoded pattern or lifestyle. HIS NAME, too, may give HER NAME some much needed structure, grounding, and stability. To avoid some of the more difficult potentials of this conflict, HIS NAME must give HER NAME plenty of freedom and learn to relax, flow, and become comfortable with a certain degree of uncertainty or insecurity. HER NAME must respect HIS NAME's security needs, nd not take on an adolescent, self-centered, irresponsible attitude toward HIS NAME, stirring up HIS NAME's fears and insecurities. HIS NAME's Asc. Sextile HER NAME's Neptune: Helpfulness and a mutual, unselfish concern for one another's welfare eases many of the stresses or difficulties that may come up in your relationship. HIS NAME's Moon Square HER NAME's Uranus: Although there is a great deal of fascination, curiosity, and attraction between you, there is also a lack of stability and peace. You react to each other very impulsively. Your feelings for each other blow hot and cold. It may seem like you are either making love or arguing with each other, going from one extreme to another. This relationship could easily turn into a love/hate elationship, where you simultaneously feel irresistibly drawn to each other, but you also irritate each other and make each other feel very uncomfortable. To make this relationship work, you both must be very flexible, tolerant of shortcomings in each other, adaptable to the constant changes and upsets, and enjoy excitement, novelty, and surprises. In this relationship there is never a dull moment! HER NAME's Mercury Square HIS NAME's Uranus: You often say things to shock or shake up each other, and you can get very high-strung when you are together. You tend to set a fast pace. This provides a good deal of excitement in your lives, and you will find yourselves periodically jumping on a new bandwagon, experimenting with a new idea, or exploring new alternatives. However, the impatience with each other is likely to cause sudden arguments and anger to flare. HIS NAME's Mercury Trine HER NAME's Jupiter: Communication is open and harmonious. You are able to help each other incorporate new ideas and expand your perspective. If you have a close, long-lasting relationship, you will develop similar political, social, religious, and philosophical views. The similarity in your overall perspectives on life helps the two of you feel very happy to share your lives together. Your overall beliefs and aims are in harmony. HIS NAME's Venus Sextile HER NAME's Neptune: You enjoy sharing music, art, or poetry with each other. Taking evening walks, listening to music together, and watching movies together are likely to be some of your favorite shared activities. You can tune into subtleties of feeling and aesthetics in a manner that inspires and uplifts each other. Romantic feelings are strong in this relationship. HIS NAME's Mars Sextile HER NAME's Mars: You are able to work together very harmoniously and complement each other's efforts. You coordinate well on tackling daily chores and you are able to accomplish a great deal in almost any joint effort. Chapter 3 Destiny and Final Outcome of Your Relationship Composite Sun Conjunct Moon: You complement one another and bring about a sense of balance and wholeness in each other's lives. There is a deep and abiding attraction between you, and together you will both feel very unified and more complete than you feel singly. Over time you will begin to feel almost a part of one another. An important aspect of your purpose together is to bring something new into the world - either physical offspring or "brain children", or both. You will be quite fruitful as a couple. Composite Moon Sextile Neptune: There is great empathy and intuitive understanding here, a kind of emotional and psychic rapport that enables you to "know" the other without a lot of words needing to be exchanged. You have a certain understanding, a flow of sympathy between you, an essentially spiritual connection in many ways. One of the purposes of your relationship is to foster this psychic and spiritual sensitivity in you both. Through your relationship you'll become more compassionate, and more appreciative of the feminine side of life. Composite Mercury Conjunct Pluto: Due to your relationship, both of you will undergo some profound changes in your understanding and in your ways of thinking. Deep self-analysis, long probing conversations, seeking hidden causes, looking at the undersides of things, discussing "dark" or taboo topics, investigating what is below the surface -these are destined to transform your usual ways of looking at yourselves and at life. One potential drawback is that you may be tempted to try to be your partner's psychoanalyst, and invest everything that happens with some hidden significance or a convoluted motive which doesn't actually exist. Together you can also easily become fanatical and zealous about a particular opinion or technique. One of you may try to convert or dominate the other's thinking, or the two of you as a couple may do this to others. Your words and your combined mental energies are potent, and could be very influential in the world around you. Composite Mars Square Jupiter: As a couple, you generate a lot of positive energy, enterprising ideas, and a belief that you can do anything you really want to. You reinforce the encouraging attitude that what you do can really make a difference. Confidently acting upon those beliefs produces successful results in the world. A sense of ambition and enterprise infuses your relationship. However, minor achievements or humble successes, and even some of you grander accomplishments will not be enough for you. You'll always be seeking the next challenge, the farther horizon. The two of you must join forces and work together for some mutual goal, for you're apt to feel restless, discontented, and dissatisfied when you aren't doing something. A good bit of healthy, friendly competition between you will invigorate and challenge you both. Sports or outdoor activities would be good outlets for your combined energies. Composite Saturn Square Uranus: There will be considerable conflict, stress, and tension in this relationship regardless of whatever good intentions you enter the relationship with and whatever positives you have going for you. The source of this tension is that one of you is more conservative, security-conscious, restrictive, and controlling, causing the other to feel limited, stifled, resentful and rebellious. The more aggravated this conflict becomes, the greater the likelihood of a sudden, decisive rupture in the relationship. Another way this inherent tension between you may manifest is that one of you will be very uninhibited and seem purposefully to provoke the other's insecurities and fears. This is an unstable situation which can only be modified to a small degree. Finding a balance between stability and structure on one hand, and spontaneity, adventure, and freedom on the other will be one of your biggest challenges. Composite Sun Sextile Mars: Together you will be inspired to take action and do things that you may not have had the courage or confidence to do as single individuals. You help one another come out into the world, to participate more fully and more boldly. Whatever you do together as a team is infused with a sense of energy and vital purpose, and you can get a lot done. Physical activities, sports or outdoor adventures, for instance, are a key part of the health of your relationship. Composite Sun Sextile Neptune: Your relationship will have a mystical or spiritual flavor, and together your psychic perceptions and abilities will blossom. To begin with, you'll quickly be able to tune in to one another telepathically, and be able to intuitively know what is happening with each other, even from a distance. Whatever interests you have in metaphysics, spirituality, or the paranormal will also be brought out, and you will explore these together, even if you've only had a passing interest before. Composite Mars Conjunct Neptune: As a couple you may not be very effective or capable in dealing with practicalities and physical realities. Your goals are difficult to define and therefore to actively pursue, because for the most part what motivates the two of you when you combine forces lies in the realm of the imagination. You really want to live out your fantasies with one another more than anything else, and this needn't be a problem if you clearly acknowledge that this is what you are doing. Erotic imagination, glamorizing sexuality, and sexual expression as a form of worship will be coloring your relationship right from the beginning. Your fertile, creative imaginations will really be activated by being together. Positively this lends an almost magical power to your sexual relationship but, on the other hand, should one or both of you fail to satisfy the other's dreams and desires, it would be especially disappointing. Above all, strive for honesty and clarity with each other in all aspects of your communication. It will be only too easy to confuse and/or deceive one another if you don't. Chapter 4 Other Themes in Your Relationship HIS NAME's Sun in HER NAME's 2nd house: HIS NAME takes a keen interest in HER NAME's finances, assets, and talents, and HIS NAME is likely to provide financial assistance and enthusiasm for HER NAME's projects and ambitions. HER NAME's Sun in HIS NAME's 11th house: You share many mutual friends, social concerns, and interests. Your relationship has an upbeat, friendly, outgoing quality but may lack personal warmth and intimacy at times. HIS NAME's Moon in HER NAME's 12th house: HER NAME likes to confide in HIS NAME, telling HIS NAME many events and circumstances from childhood that no one else has been told. HER NAME's Moon in HIS NAME's 1st house: HER NAME's family background and domestic life has a striking effect on HIS NAME. HIS NAME may feel "adopted" by HER NAME's family or find that HER NAME's life style and home makes HIS NAME feel extremely comfortable and at peace. HIS NAME's Mercury in HER NAME's 2nd house: You enjoy planning financial strategies together, and HIS NAME provides HER NAME with lots of ideas on business ventures, investments, and practical application of job-related skills. HER NAME's Mercury in HIS NAME's 12th house: HER NAME's conversation, interests, and way of looking at things perplexes HIS NAME sometimes. Nonverbal communication may be more effective than trying to reason with one another. HIS NAME's Venus in HER NAME's 1st house: Regardless of how others view HIS NAME, HER NAME finds HIS NAME to be a very attractive and a beautiful person. HER NAME sees a great deal of charm and sweetness in HIS NAME and is willing to go to great lengths to please HIS NAME. HER NAME's Venus in HIS NAME's 9th house: HIS NAME has a great deal of respect and appreciation for HER NAME, and may even look up to HER NAME. If HIS NAME ever feels that HER NAME's motives are not sincere or genuine, then the disappointment can be crushing to your relationship. HIS NAME's Mars in HER NAME's 4th house: For better or worse, HIS NAME gets under HER NAME's skin. HIS NAME may infuriate, excite, inspire, and sexually arouse HER NAME, perhaps even all of these at the same time! If you live together, HIS NAME will do much to maintain the home, but both of you must be careful to accommodate your partner's tastes and concerns and try not to overpower your partner, especially when domestic issues are involved. HER NAME's Mars in HIS NAME's 1st house: HER NAME comes on strong, almost aggressively to HIS NAME, and this relationship is a lively, dynamic one. HER NAME spurs HIS NAME to do more and be more. HIS NAME may feel inspired by HER NAME, but may also feel that HER NAME is too pushy. HIS NAME's Jupiter in HER NAME's 5th house, HER NAME's Jupiter in HIS NAME's 5th house: The two of you enjoy playing games together, and engaging in creative activities and hobbies. You have lots of fun together! There is a childish, exuberant quality to your relationship and you put each other in a good mood. It is likely that you will work together successfully in joint creative activities. HIS NAME's Saturn in HER NAME's 6th house, HER NAME's Saturn in HIS NAME's 6th house: If you are married or live together, handling of schedules and how to best meet day-to-day responsibilities becomes a major issue and a potential stumbling block. You can lock horns when it comes to deciding who is responsible for preparing meals, cleaning the home, getting the car fixed, making sure all of the bills are paid, mowing the lawn, etc. Both of you may feel that you have to carry more than half the load and you resent any complaints by your partner! Oddly enough, it is likely that together you probably do a good job at meeting these responsibilities and very often you work well together, but unresolved disagreements on how to best coordinate your efforts tend to develop anyway and can be a sore point in your relationship. HIS NAME's Uranus in HER NAME's 3rd house, HER NAME's Uranus in HIS NAME's 3rd house: There is a spontaneity and quickness to your communications that allows the two of you to convey a lot of information to each other very rapidly. You spur one another to develop new, creative ideas and you both enjoy the fresh, innovative ideas that come to you when you start brainstorming together. HIS NAME's Neptune in HER NAME's 3rd house: Frequently, the two of you misunderstand each other regarding some practical detail or specific instruction. Without realizing it, HIS NAME tends to communicate less clearly to HER NAME than to others, and does not concentrate as much on the practical nitty-gritty of what is being communicated. HER NAME, in turn, responds by being slightly distracted and less attentive to the factual details being communicated. HER NAME's Neptune in HIS NAME's 2nd house: If you are married, you need to be careful about how you jointly handle your finances. HER NAME may encourage a joint investment that proves to be unsuccessful. HER NAME tends to be idealistic and impractical regarding your joint assets. HIS NAME's Pluto in HER NAME's 1st house, HER NAME's Pluto in HIS NAME's 1st house: You find one another to be fascinating, mysterious, and almost charismatic. There is a strong desire to know each other more intimately, and share very personal experiences. You may also be prone to power struggles at times or try to manipulate one another. HER NAME's Sun Opposition HIS NAME's Jupiter: There is a great deal of enthusiasm and optimism in your relationship. You inspire each other to expand your horizons, explore new possibilities, and improve your financial and social situation. You have a lot of good will towards each other, and also allow each other a lot of freedom. You do not smother each other. You may, however, engage in risky speculations together that are driven more by optimism and hopefulness than by well thought out plans, and consequently fall far short of your expectations. Overall, however, this astrological influence is a positive one of good will and optimism. HIS NAME's Sun Trine HER NAME's Venus: Yours is a congenial and enjoyable relationship, for you both like, love, and appreciate one another, and make special efforts to please one another. You also share a similarity in tastes and enjoyment of leisure activities and pleasures. HIS NAME's Asc. Square HER NAME's Venus: There is a strong romantic quality to your relationship, but you will also experience times when the qualities of your partner contrast sharply with the qualities that you had envisioned that your "Ideal Lover" would have. Do not try to force your partner to conform to your desires; each person must be true to themselves. HER NAME's Asc. Square HIS NAME's Uranus: To HER NAME, HIS NAME seems highly unusual and fascinating, or unstable and disruptive, perhaps both. HIS NAME makes HER NAME feel nervous and unsettled, but this may also be quite stimulating. Both of you challenge one another to change your plans, habits, or attitudes, and a great deal of flexibility, willingness to change, and openness is necessary on both of your parts. HIS NAME's Mercury Conjunct HER NAME's Mars: The two of you are inclined to mentally spar with each other, challenging each other's ideas and aggressively confronting weaknesses, inconsistencies, or superficialities in each other's thinking. While this can sharpen your wits and improve your mental work, it may also lead to arguments, making you feel attacked and ridiculed by each other. Be wary of hurting each other's feelings or being overly zealous in challenging one another's ideas. HIS NAME's Mercury Trine HER NAME's Venus: You love to discuss the arts, literature, culture, or any other area that involves a strong aesthetic or emotional element. You are also likely to work successfully together in artistic, literary, or some humanitarian area. Your strong friendship and admiration for each other fosters a lasting, harmonious partnership. HIS NAME's Venus Square HER NAME's Venus: Your tastes in art, music, and food are frequently very different and, more importantly, your approach to romance and sexuality is often at odds with each other. These differences are not severe and are likely to cause only minor annoyances, but nevertheless are a nuisance, leading to a feeling of distance and mutual misunderstanding. HER NAME's Venus Trine HIS NAME's Saturn: There is a great deal of mutual trustworthiness, reliability, and responsibility in this relationship that makes you both feel very secure with each other. You can count on each other, and you both take the relationship seriously. You willingly make sacrifices for each other, and a deep love between you develops over time. You will assist each other a great deal over the years. This is likely to be a deep, meaningful, lasting relationship. HER NAME's Mars Trine HIS NAME's Jupiter: The two of you form an effective, dynamic team in any venture or endeavor. You work together very well in accomplishing daily tasks, and it is likely that you will also successfully coordinate efforts on joint efforts as well. HER NAME's Jupiter Square HIS NAME's Neptune: You stimulate one another's expansive, restless, imaginative, idealistic, and impractical sides. You inspire one another, but there's a fine line between being optimistic and being foolhardy, and together you tend to overestimate what you can really do, to be blinded by an overly hopeful or grandiose sense of what is possible. HIS NAME, in particular, should avoid exaggerating, misrepresenting, or subtly misleading HER NAME, or encouraging HER NAME to be irresponsible. Traveling, vacationing, gambling and other "escapist" activities are things you are inclined to do together. If you are inclined toward spirituality or mysticism, this aspect of yourselves will be emphasized by being together, along with a tendency to become rather unbalanced, overly idealistic, or ungrounded in your approach. HER NAME's Uranus Sextile HIS NAME's Pluto: You help one another to break old habits and to eliminate whatever is outworn or unnecessary in your lives. You support and encourage each other to make some fundamental changes or to take risks that you would otherwise be unwilling to try. |